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July 2018 - Sex in a Digital Age : Intimacy on Demand



Long gone are the days of love letters delivered by messenger and scented with a drop of perf ume, sealed with a kiss. In today’s era of dating and sex, partnership and pleasure are just a right-swipe and a click away. With ever evolving technology come great leaps for long distance lovers, endless shopping options and widely accessible education. However it can be easy to get caught up in a passive mindset towards certain behaviours that may have adverse outcomes, such as dishonesty and unfaithfulness. So how do we navigate the rapidly evolving world of dating and intimacy in the rapidly advancing world of technology?


Technology advancements in the love industry haven’t all been harmful, and indeed should be considered a vital tool for lovers. Consider this: twenty years ago, if you wanted to flirt with your lover, you’d likely have to risk a racey phone call or simply wait until your next encounter. Today, smartphone in hand, you can send a naughty text and get the rush of seeing the dots of anticipation as they reply. Instant satisfaction! On the other hand, those without partners have a plethora of apps to assist them in finding their hookup. Online communities have formed for every kink or fetish and gender or sexual orientation. Shoppers can find any and every sex toy to fit their needs and enjoy discreet shipping too! As porn has become freely accessible, what was once taboo is now satisfying the curiosity of those who would have been otherwise to shy to venture in a video store. Long distance relationships are far more successful with the aid of video chatting and instant messaging. You can even buy vibrators to sync to your partners phone! On an educational basis, technology has granted nonexclusive access to sexual health education and resources that may not have otherwise been accessible. Pretty much any question or concern you have can been answered - to a degree - via Google search. Whatever it is you’re looking for you can surely find thanks to the influence of technology in our intimate lives.


With all the great advancements to technology and their benefits, society has unfortunately developed a mindset of instant gratification, as well as faced a moral decline of sorts. As Caitlyn Roper of WIRED writes, “ there’s something resolutely neutral about the technology now fueling our lust: It is taboo-agnostic.” It’s true that it’s easier than ever to be unfaithful to a partner, with chat rooms bursting with heated sexts and nude images that are easily deleted later on. With sex available for hire, Cam Girls just a click away and tinder flooded with people who are DTF, you can get laid pretty much anytime you like with no strings attached. Roper claims “(technology) will not disapprove or scold. It will only enable.” Undoubtedly, porn addictions are on the rise as certain individuals are no longer satisfied with their real life partners and insead prefer the company of a computer screen and their fantasies. There is also the concern that certain media is too easily obtained and is therefore a threat to minors. Some children learn to use an Iphone before they learn to walk, so it’s understandable that by the time they are school aged they have a good sense of how to navigate the internet. That being said, even the best parental controls might not be enough to protect young individuals from being exposed to age inappropriate material, nor can they prevent exposure from peers’ access.


Technology will continue to advance, and with it will bring more changes to the way we interact and communicate both on a regular and sexual basis. Hopefully we will find ways to navigate the associated issues of the “taboo-agnostic” mindset that come with instant gratification and widespread media. For those who continue to use technology responsibly, may it only make your sex life that much steamier!



Written by Charlea MacLean



July 2018 - Being Confident in Your Sexuality; Debunking the Myth of a Normal Sex Life

In an ever evolving world of advancing technology and digital communication, it is easier than ever to become lost in society’s idea of a “normal” sex life. With porn readily and freely available online and new game changing vibrators, it’s no wonder so many individuals find themselves questioning the status of their own sex lives, and how they measure up to society’s ideas of “normal”. In order to understand what qualifies as a “normal” sex life, we must abandon all preconceived ideas about what sex ‘should be’ and  learn to understand and accept this: there is no normal when it comes to sex.


The idea of “normal” in regards to sexuality has always been questionable, especially to those who find themselves outside said “normal”. By definition, “normal” is regarded as what is typical or expected. In that case, a normal sex life would be, historically, defined as an intimate physical relationship between one man and one woman. Said man and said woman would engage in vaginal penetration until climax or ejaculation. In the 21st century, however, most of us by definition would already be considered abnormal if participating in any sexual activity outside those parameters. Obviously, we need a broader definition of normal.Perhaps it is not “normal” which we are seeking to determine; we should strive instead for a healthy sex life.Transitioning our thinking from “is my sex life normal?” to “is my sex life healthy ?” will allow us to examine our sexuality on a much broader spectrum. A healthy sex life comprises all elements of sexuality, which when harmoniously united, creates an incredible and lasting bond between you and your partner without pressure to conform to societal normalities. Now that we have established what it is exactly we are trying to determine, we can begin to analyze the elements of a healthy sex life and compare our current experiences to our ideal ones.


It is important to understand that as we are all unique, so are our sexual needs and desires. Often times those who find themselves questioning some aspect of their sex life are the ones who are for some reason unsatisfied. This could be a number for of reasons. Maybe it is with whom you’re engaging in sex. Perhaps it is the frequency of your sexual encounters, be it too often or not often enough. For some, the discountent lies within the type of sexual activity. Others might find that it is not one particular aspect, but many small indiscrepancies that accumulate to an all together unsatisfying sex life. None of these problems stem from the “normality” of their sex lives, but rather that they are not creating a healthy sex life for the themselves.


Probably the biggest flaw in the idea of a “normal” sex life is that it completely erases all non heterosexual relationships. Twenty years ago, heterosexuality was undeniably the norm. In modern day however, thus is hardly the case as more and more people are recognizing and proudly coming into their queer sexualities. Because we have shifted our debate from normal to healthy sexuality, it is safe to say that anyone can identify with our question. Now we can assess  what is a healthy sex life based on the partners we choose. It is fairly straightforward: a healthy sexual partner is someone with whom you share a mutual attraction and with whom you can perform consensual sexual acts. It is safe to say that what is a healthy sexual partner will not be the same for a straight man as it would be for a lesbian. But beyond gender, what are some aspects of a healthy sexual partner? There are many types of relationships (monogamous, open, polyamorous, etc) and it is important that you and your partner both agree on how you will conduct your relationship. All members of the relationships should respect the expectations and boundaries of others involved. A healthy sexual partner might also support you emotionally if that is within your boundaries. Regardless of the type of relationship you have, you and your partner should always aim for open communication. This allows for honesty and trust, and assures both people that their feelings will be heard and considered. A sexual partner should never try and convince you or force you into any sexual act that you are not comfortable performing - that is not at all a healthy aspect of a sexual relationship. In any and every case, intercourse, in any form, must always be consensual to all parties involved. All in all, a healthy sexual partner would be someone with whom you feel genuine attraction and are comfortable openly discussing sexuality, and with whom you may perform consensual sex.


Sexual frequency is a key component of sexual health and, like all other aspects, varies from person to person. One of  the greatest misconceptions about sexual desire and frequency is that it is more persistent in males, however there is no evidence that proves men are more sexual than women. Others are convinced that sex is only for young people and stops altogether once you reach your senior years. For some this may be true, but surprisingly most people don’t reach their sexual peak until their mid to late 40s. Ideal sexual frequency also varies, ranging around 4 to 6 times a week for some couples, while others would find that daunting and instead prefer one steamy saturday night instead. Whether you’re getting it on every night or once a month is totally up to you and your partner. In most cases, one partner desires sex more than the other (an in severe cases this can cause Desire Discrepancy, which we will address in a later article). The key is to find a compromised balance that suits both individuals so that both needs are met. Sometimes it can be difficult for the individual with increased libido to sympathize with their partner who desires fewer sexual encounters. Regardless, you should never engaged in “pity” or “guilty” intercourse - this is a form of nonconsensual sex and is most certainly not an attribute of a healthy sexual partner. Ideally, both partners would be comfortable with the frequency of intercourse to ensure a healthy and ideal amount of intimacy. If you find yourself unsatisfied with compromising your sexual frequency, perhaps it is time to re-evaluate the first key component of a healthy sex life and seek partners who have a similar libido.


Potentially the least regarded aspect of a healthy sex life is adventourness and willingness to venture outside of everyday lovemaking. If you find yourself stuck in a predictable cycle of unsatisfying intercourse, perhaps it is time to dip into something new and exciting. Generally couples can identify where they land on the “Kink Spectrum” anywhere from Vanilla (meaning fairly limited to no impact play, generic sexual positions and little inclusion of toys) all the way down to Sadomasochism (sexual pleasure derived from extreme pain and/or humiliation). For the most part couples are on average somewhere around the mildly kinky (some light bondage, toy usage and exploration of differing positions). Engaging with a partner who is not relatively interested in the same type of sex - be it kinky or not - that you desire may not foster a satisfying sexual experience. Of course it is possible for couples to have varying interests, it would most likely not work out well long term for someone who desires heavy BDSM to engage sexually with someone who is solely interested in soft lovemaking. If you find yourself getting bored, ease into something outside your comfort zone. You can start simple with a massage candle or try adding a vibrator. Often times, couples find that when they explore new ways to pleasure each other that their sex lives are much more interesting and they do not get stuck in a rut of boredom in the bedroom. In order to have a fulfilling and healthy sex life, one must be able to express their sexual desires and tendencies with someone who shares them and is willing to explore those interests in a controlled and consensual environment.


Sexuality is vastly different for everyone, but sexual health is universally important. Tho it will vary for each individual, there are some common key factors that play into the quality of your sex life. Your choice of partner is first and foremost; you should seek out a partner who wholeheartedly cares for your wellbeing, who will support you emotionally if/when needed and who is willing to partake in your collectively desired type of intercourse. Frequency of intercourse also plays a major role in the health of your sex life; if you feel you are unsatisfied by the occurrence of sex, try to find a balance that suits both you and your partner. Remember, a good partner will never pressure you into “guilty sex”. Finally, if you are still finding some discontent with your sex life, try something new! Many couples find themselves growing bored with the same routine over time. If this is the case, try spicing things up in any way that seems appealing to you as a couple. As we have uncovered, the key to a fulfilling sex life is not determined by whether or not you fall into society’s definition of a “normal” sex life, but rather by what gives you satisfaction and pleasure, be it alone or with a partner. Those who feel they are sexually atypical shouldn’t worry, as there really is no way to define a normal sex life. Embrace your uniqueness and find confidence in your sexuality!



Written by Charlea MacLean



June 2018 - Bluebella Lingerie


A Little More Interesting is proud to be carrying the Bluebella Lingerie Line. We are the only Store in Calgary to carry this intriguing line. Below is a little information regarding this exciting lingerie to Calgary.



Bluebella LingeriE

WHO WE ARE

Founded in 2005 by Emily Bendell, the story and vision for the brand was simple. Fashion-led luxurious lingerie and nightwear collections made with the highest quality at an affordable price. Bluebella is a lingerie brand with strength and modernity at its heart; designed to redefine sensuality.


OUR FOUNDER

“The Bluebella woman does not see lingerie as a functional or traditionally sexy purchase. She sees it as fashion crossover style and a personal self-indulgence. No-one should leave gorgeous lingerie languishing in a drawer, waiting for that ‘special occasion’ – our highly wearable fashion-led collections can make every day feel just that little bit more exciting”

Emily Bendell
Founder and CEO


OUR DESIGNS

Our multi award-winning team launch four fashion lingerie collections per year, plus lots of beautiful mid-season delights. Our designs reflect a uniquely modern take on lingerie – often using unusual fabrics and trims and creating stunning new silhouettes. All styles are exclusively designed and manufactured to our exacting standards, and ensure that we maintain a truly unique and inspiring collection every season


BE INSPIRED

We take inspiration from the world around us and today’s lifestyle and fashion trends to create collections that are unique and exclusive, and we are proud to be stocked in luxury retailers throughout the UK and internationally.

Our designs often have a provocative edge. We are endlessly inspired by the allure of the hidden, the mystery of what lies beneath, and the illusion of nudity just waiting to be found.

Our promise is to bring you seductive and affordable lingerie that takes you from day to night time, and everywhere in between.


2017/18 HIGHLIGHTS

Lingerie Brand Of The Year - Drapers Awards 2017
We are very proud to say Bluebella has won the prestigious LINGERIE BRAND OF THE YEAR at this year’s fashion industry flagship awards ceremony

Marketing Campaign of the Year - Dare To Bare - Lingerie Insight Awards
In September 2017, to mark London Fashion Week, we wanted to celebrate our love of our city and our unique approach to life and fashion with a very special catwalk show... so we dared our Instagram family to take part in a Bluebella fashion show in the most iconic of London hotspots: Oxford Circus. Find out more here.
This campaign won the Lingerie Insight award 'Marketing Campaign of the Year' for 2017.

Further award nominations
We were also shortlisted as a Finalist for 'Medium Sized Business of the Year' at the Lingerie Insight awards

New accounts
This year we have expanded into even more and even bigger places: John Lewis, Selfridges, Revolve, Topshop, Amazon US, Nordstrom, Bravissimo and La Redoute, to name just a few!

Socially Active
Bluebella has reached milestone numbers on social media - 100k followers on Facebook, and 200k on Instagram!



AWARDS & RECOGNITION

2017: Drapers Awards 2017 - Winner: Lingerie Brand of the Year

2016: The UK Lingerie Awards – Finalist: Medium Business of the Year & Finalist: Marketing Campaign of the Year

2015: The UK Lingerie Awards - Winner: Boudoir Brand of the Year & Finalist: Independent Directional Brand of the Year

2014: The Lingerie Collective - Best Brand; The UK Lingerie Awards - Finalist: Boudoir Brand of the Year; Management Today - 35 Under 35

2013: Great British Entrepreneur Awards - Small Business of the Year & Most Captivating Entrepreneur

2012: Fast Growth Business Awards - Finalist; Women of Excellence Award - Finalist



Feel free to come down and check out the collection we have in stock for Bluebella. If we don't have it in stock we can order it in for you from across the pond.










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